The Gift of the Pedestal Approach:

As a counselor I have spent my time studying relationships. One of the major advices I give people to try to work out on a relation is to try and use the pedestal approach. Yes this is novel and can be termed as the 'Deveika approach' and be assured it really works.

As a human being we are constantly in search of those that try to praise us. The moment someone says anything complimentary the body reacts positively. We remain in a euphoric and ebullient mood and the day is definitely worth living and loving. Yes when one is happy the chances of feeling and falling in love is much stronger compared to when the mood is depressive.

So the pedestal approach is all about trying to raise your partners or whoever is your object of admiration to a level that is high. To a pedestal level that he or she feels good about. Most relationships that show positivity is shown to have unintentionally adopted the pedestal approach.

No amount of roses, champagne and candles, holiday resorts, spa treatments, designer wears, perfumes is permanent. These are temporary materialistic goods. None of this can bring to a relationship that a complimentary word gets them. When you admire the skill of a person or you indulge in some praise, you assure the person of their self worth and that helps. People like to be around those that spread positivity and a pedestal approach does that. Why not gift something to your valentine that is permanent or has a permanent effect!

Each partner has to interchange the active passive role play. At one time the person who is passive has to engage in the pedestal approach and raise the other partner to a level where they feel good about themselves. The role changes after a while where the passive partner becomes active and the active one turns passive and in turn showers the other partner with the pedestal approach reaffirming the belief about the self worth of that person. And thus how important one is for the other.

Any relationship thrives better with a strong emotional intercourse than a sexual one .A pedestal approach where the partner tries to provide comfort and helps him/her recognize their importance in the others life is an integral part of emotional intercourse and hence an integral part of the secret to wonderful relationship.

The pedestal approach shows the person that you are in awe of his worth and feeling of being worthy has aphrodisiacal qualities. It makes one feel closer to you. Very often we come across incidents where the ego clashes jeopardize any chances of peace in relationships.

We have all witnessed relations at least one time where we have actually wondered what about the other person attracted the couple. The answer lies in the pedestal approach. People love and get attracted to those that love them for their available potential. Those that respect their worth. Those that condemn or ridicule others are often kept at a distant and not even touched with a barge pole.

But yes let there be some genuine approach. For a person who sings like a crow, you can’t say, ‘You sound like a nightingale’. Credibility is important. Check out the areas where there is potential. And remember each one has at least one. Check those areas. Praise him/her for that And watch them appreciate it and revel in its warmth.

Sweet words can do what a million roses cant. Sweet words are the music that plays at harmonizing the relationship.
Don’t you think the best gift you can give your partner is a respect for his worth? The pedestal approach is the balm that provides antidote to self images and that is one of the best gifts anyone can offer another. Inexpensive gift for valentine yet worth its weight in gold!!!

Cheers,
Deveika